MP3: Why You Must Stop Saying “Good Job”
Do you wish your children would be self-starters and take more responsibility for their actions?
You may be surprised to learn that the way you praise their behavior often works against them feeling competent and capable.
Overuse of the phrase “Good job” actually makes children feel judged and gives the unconscious message that their primary responsibility is to please another.
Hearing that they are a ‘good boy’ or ‘good girl’ translates to, “I made my parent happy; therefore I am worthy.”
Describing what the child is doing, rather than judging it as ‘good’, is a small difference that creates HUGE changes.
When you appreciate their accomplishments by acknowledging (with specific language) why what they did was praise worthy children become self-confident, capable and independent.
Listen in to discover how you can encourage your child to value their own achievement by talking about what they did and how it made them feel.