“Bless those who challenge us for they remind us of doors we have closed and doors we have yet to open.”
The words of this Native American Indian prayer remind me of a form of Universal Wisdom which says that every time you are aware of something you don’t want you become highly aware of what you do want.
I have come to realize that all great wisdom resonates with a form of basic truth. I want to savor this wisdom and make it my own. We can all spare ourselves hours and days and months of grief once we understand how happiness comes to us. It works like this for me:
When something or someone generates awareness in me that makes me feel yucky in any way, I have a choice. I can lament, whine, retell my perspective of the story, and give it all a spin that says I am a victim, misunderstood or just plain frustrated. My true power comes in making a conscious decision that I no longer want to feel bad by justifying the reality of what those others did to me.
Instead of repeating the story of how they wronged me I can focus my attention on what I want and what this experience has clarified for me. I start to imagine people, places and events unfolding in a way that bring me peace and contentment and a zest for living.
The most amazing things happen when I am willing to do this inner work.
There was a time, before I knew about this Wisdom, when I would retell a story from years ago of how I was wronged or misunderstood. It made for great lunch conversations with my girlfriends. Now I know that the opportunity for a joyful future never comes from savoring hurt.
We can all benefit from understanding what Wise Ones who lived before us knew: Challenges are opportunities for letting the light of the Creator in – and once we turn our attention toward that light and away from the hurt we are on the road to the unfolding of our dreams.