Perspective
Most disagreements and misunderstandings come from different perspectives. We each experience life through our own unique filtering system and what appears to be absolute truth to one person may take on a totally different view to someone else. It is only natural that we will have different points of view. …
Parents Must Model Wanted Behavior
When children feel threatened their ‘lower’ brain immediately responds with a fight, flight or freeze reaction. It is vital that parents not take these responses personally. When your child runs away from you, fights back or just gives you a blank stare it is an indication that their lower brain …
Natural and Logical Consequences
We all make choices and engage in behavior that creates the next experience. Consequences should not be used as punishments~ They need to be: • Naturally or Logically connected to the behavior • Known in advance when possible • Given in a firm but calm voice • Easy to apply and …
Redefining Discipline
The reason using emotionally healthy discipline is hard is because PARENTS MUST DISCIPLINE THEMSELVES and model the very behavior wanted from the children. Listen to our MP3, “Redefining Discipline” to learn more about this very important topic.
The Gift of Understanding
Have you ever savored a moment when you were understood and appreciated as a unique and precious human being? Do you remember how pleasant it felt not to have to please anyone or complete a task and just rejoice in the freedom of being yourself? With all the pressures of …
That’s it, I’m done.
It is human to sometimes feel like we can’t handle any more. It may be about a particular situation, a certain relationship or life in general. While it is healthy to recognize when you are at your ‘wits end’ and can’t take any more, it is also a cop out …
Gifts From Those People
“Bless those who challenge us for they remind us of doors we have closed and doors we have yet to open.” The words of this Native American Indian prayer remind me of a form of Universal Wisdom which says that every time you are aware of something you don’t want …
Parenting Magic
To be a parent is to taste the agony and ecstasy of being human. It is more complicated than many of us thought it would be ~ Especially when you have a challenging child. Parenting can reduce successful men and women into a stressful state of confusion. Adults who see …
Temper Tantrums- A Conscious Approach
If your child throws temper tantrums what are the best ways for a parent to nurture a new behavior? The way you approach a child who is having a tantrum depends on what you perceive is actually happening. If you are embarrassed by it or believe that the child is …
Lying to Our Children
Now that the holidays are neatly tucked away behind us it may be safe for me to bring up a touchy subject: the way grown ups lie to children about Santa Claus. Before you have a meltdown at the mere thought of reflecting on the lies we tell children, take …