Help Your Sensitive Child Begin the New School Year

Insights from an Early Childhood Teacher  Be aware of your own anxiety. Your sensitive child will pick up on it. Keep your own schedule as relaxed as possible leading up to and first few weeks of school. Connect with your child’s teacher and ask if it is possible to arrange …

You don’t need to have “the talk”

My father-in-law gave my husband profound advice instead of ‘the talk.’ He told his son to go to the playground and the other kids would give him answers to any questions he had. And that’s how the father of my children learned about sex. I asked my adult kids if …

The Truth About Bullying

“We create our own reality.” People in spiritual communities nurture each other with daily bits of wisdom ~ nuggets of profoundly sacred truth that explain how powerful each of us truly are. Reminding our fellow seekers that we are not victims, we send encouragement to tap into our infinite and …

7 Traits of Highly Sensitive People

Recently I discovered that I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), possessing an “innate sensitiveness” as Carl Jung originally coined it. In 1996, Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking work confirmed that 15-20% of the population has this trait of high sensory processing. The work of Dr. Ted Zeff explores how the …

Intentional Parenting

What is Intentional Parenting? It is acting with knowledge and purpose, ensuring that young children acquire the social, emotional and cognitive skills needed to succeed in school and in life. Intentional Parenting goes beyond love. You can love your children and still create an environment of chaos, disorder, mistrust, shame …

Messages To Our Children

  We give our children verbal and non verbal messages about themselves; their value, their abilities and the world in which they live. Are you aware of the messages you are giving to your children? Are they the messages you want to give? If you would like some support on …

7 Ways to Enrich Your Children’s Self-Esteem

  1. WORK ON YOUR OWN SELF-ESTEEM: It is hard to give our children what we do not have ourselves. Our words do not teach. It is what you model and children experience that become their truth. 2. TAKE YOUR ATTENTION AWAY FROM THE STUFF THAT ANNOYS OR WORRIES YOU: …

The Illusion of Power

Each of us experiences thoughts and emotions that trigger us to disconnect from our sense of balance and clarity. Most parents believe that it is their children’s behavior that is responsible for the way they think and feel. This illusion gives all the power for our happiness over to our …

Kindness Must Be Modeled

There is a Chinese proverb that suggests this thought: “Peace in the world begins with peace in our homes. Peace in our homes begins with peace in our hearts.” It is part of a parent’s duty to be a role model for their children. If we want our children to …

Words Do Not Teach

  This weekend I had the privilege of meeting an amazing dad. Our chance interchange happened as I was walking through the booths of a local photography exhibit. I stopped to admire some photos and the man started to tell me about his work. He said he had always loved …

Giving Away Our Power

“If only the kids would act differently, I’d feel better.” We also think, “If only my partner, my friend, my sibling, my parent, my boss, my president would act differently I would feel better.” Whenever we turn our well being over to the actions of someone else we have given …

10 Best Practices for Encouraging Positive Behavior

  1. Set up consistent, predictable routines. Be careful not to confuse this with being rigid. You are aiming for a safe and nurturing environment where children know what to expect.   2. Have clear, consistent, age appropriate expectations. Children will push, test and manipulate when boundaries are inconsistent or …

We Are The Role Models

In recent days there have been many reactions to a mom who blogged that her family was ‘canceling Christmas’ because her children’s recent behavior was disrespectful and entitled. During an interview with “Good Morning America” the children agreed that they were hitting, fighting and even having tantrums and when asked …

Perspective

Most disagreements and misunderstandings come from different perspectives. We each experience life through our own unique filtering system and what appears to be absolute truth to one person may take on a totally different view to someone else. It is only natural that we will have different points of view. …

5 Tips to Help Children Master Self-control

What do impulsivity, self-discipline and willpower have in common? They often require a conscious decision to delay gratification and for many people, that is a real challenge. Here are five strategies you can begin practicing immediately that can help your children experience success with delayed gratification:   1. Make Waiting …

The Remedy for “TGF” (Taken for Granted)

Ah; how many times has a parent felt taken for granted?  Children seem to just expect that laundry will be done, food will be prepared, they will be chauffeured to activities and the ‘stuff’ of daily living will be taken care of…. The remedy for TFG is awareness, consciousness and …

Is Your Child An Empath?

Children who are labeled as ‘highly sensitive,’ ‘intense reactors,’ or ‘overly emotional,’ may actually be empaths. Parents who have never experienced what it feels like to take in the overload of energy that constantly surrounds us are likely to misunderstand their empathic child’s behavior. In the same way that we …

Who We Be

Powerful parenting is not about what we ‘do’~ but who we ‘be.’ Since humans are not machines, the answers to children’s behavior do not come from a manual with specific instructions. We are human be-ings and our parenting genius must come from learning how to be: be-coming our own authentic …

Our Inner Little Girl

We still carry our little girls around inside of us and our physical, emotional and spiritual history sometimes gets in the way of being the mother we dreamed of being. Moms are just little girls who grew into a bigger body. Becoming a mom is a rite of passage that …

The Gift of Understanding

Have you ever savored a moment when you were understood and appreciated as a unique and precious human being? Do you remember how pleasant it felt not to have to please anyone or complete a task and just rejoice in the freedom of being yourself? With all the pressures of …

Non-judgement

Imagine the gift we would give to ourselves, our family and the world if we could release living in judgment of others and instead sought to understand. When we are willing to look at any situation from a different vantage point we broaden our ability to value differences and contribute …