Judgement to Joy


We were sitting in a restaurant when I noticed the young couple in the corner. They were snuggling and kissing and just plain lovin’ each other. My initial thought was that it seemed inappropriate, but I realized if I stopped judging I would free myself to enjoy their sweet energy.

It actually worked. I appreciated the tenderness they shared and remembered how wonderful it felt to be young and in love. I squeezed my husband’s hand as I realized how grateful I was to have experienced our long ago teenage love morph into our mature and deep caring for each other.

A few minutes later we noticed the young man get down on one knee and my husband said, “I think he is proposing to her.” I snuck a peek and sure enough something big was going on. It was indeed a proposal and their joy permeated the entire restaurant. I felt pulled in by their authentic happiness.

What started out as judgment transformed into authentic joy. The young woman’s eyes met mine and I heard myself ask, “Did you just get engaged?” “Come see my ring!” she giggled. I found myself hugging both of them and wound up being the first person to wish them a lifetime of happiness.

A heart that judges has little room for joy.


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Sandi Schwartz is one of the world's leading experts in helping parents understand their children. Sandi's compassionate wisdom has emerged from a unique blend of over 40 years as a Child Development Specialist and her willingness to learn more, self-reflect and tame her ego while raising her highly sensitive daughter (who now shares her vision for raising children using emotionally healthy discipline.)   Wouldn't you love to talk with Sandi and learn her secrets? Now you can! Click here to schedule a free consultation.

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