Universal Wisdom

The words of this Native American prayer remind me of a form of Universal Wisdom which says that every time you are aware of something you don’t want you become highly aware of what you do want. I have come to realize that all great wisdom resonates with a form …

You Can Control How You Feel

“You cannot change a circumstance but you can control the way you feel about it.” This message has been coming to me over and over again in recent days. It has become one of my daily mantras. It is fuel for personal empowerment. For most of us it is natural …

One Tiny Shift

This past weekend we experienced an extraordinary event. Around the world we moved a number on our clocks and now our entire day is affected by the shift. This made me think about the power of one tiny shift. Just wonder… what would happen if we were willing to make …

Listen to Your Inner Wisdom

The people who are closest to us, the ones we open our heart and soul to, are the ones who can push our buttons and create a surge of turbulence through our very being. If we can learn how to remove the ‘charge’ that kicks in when our kids roll …

New Definition of Discipline

Say the word ‘discipline’ out loud three times quickly. Which part of the word gets the most emphasis? The ‘dis’ part. I looked up the meaning of the expression ‘diss’. Popular agreement seems to be that it means to insult someone; speaking rudely or disapprovingly about someone. According to the …

All is Well

What would happen if you had a crystal ball and you knew *for sure* that everything would turn out just right? You could stop fussing and enjoy the moment. You might breathe deeper and notice your mind chatter dissipate. Perhaps you’d feel eager with anticipation for life’s unfolding.   Right now, …

5 Tips to Help Children Master Self-control

What do impulsivity, self-discipline and willpower have in common? They often require a conscious decision to delay gratification and for many people, that is a real challenge. Here are five strategies you can begin practicing immediately that can help your children experience success with delayed gratification:   1. Make Waiting …

Thought Playlist

  I asked my daughter to put some of my favorite songs in my iPhone. She showed me how to create a playlist and told me I had the ability to listen to the songs in any order that felt good for me. I was entering a whole new world …

The Remedy for “TGF” (Taken for Granted)

Ah; how many times has a parent felt taken for granted?  Children seem to just expect that laundry will be done, food will be prepared, they will be chauffeured to activities and the ‘stuff’ of daily living will be taken care of…. The remedy for TFG is awareness, consciousness and …

Is Your Child An Empath?

Children who are labeled as ‘highly sensitive,’ ‘intense reactors,’ or ‘overly emotional,’ may actually be empaths. Parents who have never experienced what it feels like to take in the overload of energy that constantly surrounds us are likely to misunderstand their empathic child’s behavior. In the same way that we …

Getting Kids to Talk

Parents often lament that their children don’t talk to them and when they do they give one word answers, “Fine.” “Nothing.” When children are little they jabber freely, sharing their thoughts, questions, desires, needs, feelings and vivid imaginations. Many times adults meet this outpouring of their inner world with condescendence, …

Shift Towards Real Peace

I just watched a news report from the Middle East and found myself crying tears of despair. “How is it that humans get themselves into such situations?” I wondered.  It became clear to me how seductive it is to be safe in our comfy homes, watch our big screen televisions …

Yes, Noah, Yes!

Tomorrow is the last day of school in my lovely, southern California town. I took my dog for his morning walk and as we turned the corner there was a pleasant cacophony of sounds coming from the dozens of children who had permission to spread out from their elementary school …

Who We Be

Powerful parenting is not about what we ‘do’~ but who we ‘be.’ Since humans are not machines, the answers to children’s behavior do not come from a manual with specific instructions. We are human be-ings and our parenting genius must come from learning how to be: be-coming our own authentic …

Choosing New Truths

  Old Truth: The way to be successful is to do well in school.   Sometimes I am shocked when I hear myself tell parents not to worry if their child is not bringing home A’s and B’s in school. I grew up with the mentality that if you do …

Our Inner Little Girl

We still carry our little girls around inside of us and our physical, emotional and spiritual history sometimes gets in the way of being the mother we dreamed of being. Moms are just little girls who grew into a bigger body. Becoming a mom is a rite of passage that …

Successful Parenting

Successful parents are willing~ Willing to look inward… Willing to wonder… Willing to try new approaches… Willing to think new thoughts… Willing to take things less personally… Willing to forgive… Willing to let go… Willing to shift limiting beliefs…  

Judgement to Joy

We were sitting in a restaurant when I noticed the young couple in the corner. They were snuggling and kissing and just plain lovin’ each other. My initial thought was that it seemed inappropriate, but I realized if I stopped judging I would free myself to enjoy their sweet energy. …

Our Work as Parents

Our role as parents is not to please others so they will complement us on the good job we are doing in raising well behaved kids. Our purpose is to support and unconditionally love our children as they discover who they are, who they came to be and to give them the …

Enoughness

The new little babies come into life knowing their value. They trust they are enough. Toddlers are certain that they are deserving of the best that life has to offer them and from their vantage point they expect to have it all! So when do we start believing that we …

The Gift of Understanding

Have you ever savored a moment when you were understood and appreciated as a unique and precious human being? Do you remember how pleasant it felt not to have to please anyone or complete a task and just rejoice in the freedom of being yourself? With all the pressures of …