Getting Them to Talk


Parents sometimes lament that their children don’t talk to them and when they do they give one word answers, “Fine.” “Nothing.”

When children are little they jabber freely, sharing their thoughts, questions, desires, needs, feelings and vivid imaginations. Many times adults meet this outpouring of their inner world with condescendence, annoyance, frustration, fear, concern or judgment.

By the time the children are in kindergarten they have learned that they are safer by not sharing their truths with us.

If we want our kids to talk to us we have to prove to them that we will hold their thoughts and feelings in confidence and treat them with respect and compassion.

If we fall apart and become emotional wrecks or hold them responsible for how their behavior makes us feel we will teach them to hide the truth from us.


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Melissa Schwartz

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Melissa Schwartz was born an intense, sensitive, power seeker. Her passion for giving a ‘voice’ to the legitimate needs of children naturally evolved into becoming the co-creator of Leading Edge Parenting. Her expertise in being able to articulate the inner world of high-spirited children helps parents understand why what they're doing isn't working and offers step-by-step strategies to inspire cooperation, responsibility and develop health self-esteem.   Want to talk with Melissa to better understand your highly sensitive child? Click here to schedule a free consultation.

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