The Gift of Understanding

Have you ever savored a moment when you were understood and appreciated as a unique and precious human being? Do you remember how pleasant it felt not to have to please anyone or complete a task and just rejoice in the freedom of being yourself? With all the pressures of …

Lit With Joy

I can’t get this question out of my mind: “When your children walk into the room do your eyes light up with joy?” I work with so many parents and grandparents who search for ways to enrich their children’s self esteem. I usually suggest they stop noticing what the kids …

That’s it, I’m done.

It is human to sometimes feel like we can’t handle any more. It may be about a particular situation, a certain relationship or life in general. While it is healthy to recognize when you are at your ‘wits end’ and can’t take any more, it is also a cop out …

Gifts From Those People

“Bless those who challenge us for they remind us of doors we have closed and doors we have yet to open.” The words of this Native American Indian prayer remind me of a form of Universal Wisdom which says that every time you are aware of something you don’t want …

Love or Fear

As parents we know how it feels to love our children and to also worry about them. I have learned, however, that while we can experience sensing the feelings of love and fear we cannot live in both at the same time. What does this actually mean? It translates in …

A Lesson About Fear

Fear can be paralyzing. It can insidiously creep into your mind and take over your body, making you doubt yourself, squash your joy and leave your dreams unfulfilled. Sometimes it appears with the force of a racket that is triggered by a catastrophic event, reeking havoc with daily reality. While …

A Time For Technology

Parents worry about their children spending too much time on computer toys and games. I have been observing parents and children when it comes to technology and I must share a few thoughts: Children need opportunities to run and jump, ride bikes and use their imaginations. Children need to be …

Living From the Inside Out

Just about everything makes me think about parenting and relationships. Today it was the laundry. Since my mind works in metaphors I started thinking about the similarities and differences between laundry and parenting. They both are never ending and seem to run in cycles. In the same way that the …

Same Opportunity, Different Experience

I was sitting in the lounge area, waiting for my car to be washed when two moms walked in, each with a little boy. The children were about 3 years old. I could sense that a nugget was quickly developing. One mom was engaged in conversation with her child, explaining …

Parenting Magic

To be a parent is to taste the agony and ecstasy of being human. It is more complicated than many of us thought it would be ~ Especially when you have a challenging child. Parenting can reduce successful men and women into a stressful state of confusion. Adults who see …

Temper Tantrums- A Conscious Approach

If your child throws temper tantrums what are the best ways for a parent to nurture a new behavior? The way you approach a child who is having a tantrum depends on what you perceive is actually happening.  If you are embarrassed by it or believe that the child is …

Positive Behavior

  It just comes with parenting!  It seems so easy to notice when our kids are behaving in ways that need improvement. While there are many things over which we have no control, the following are ten key elements that set the tone for positive behavior.  Notice that none of …

The Song of A Child

I recently heard about a tribe in Africa that celebrates a beautiful tradition and I want to share it with you all. When a woman can sense that she is ready to become a mother she finds a quiet place where she can sit in silence and she waits until …

Spring~ A Time of Miracles

mir·a·cle noun /ˈmirikəl/ 1. A surprising and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore considered to be the work of a divine agency I would like to suggest that miracles are happening all around us and I encourage you to start looking for …

Building Self Esteem

  Modern parents have so much to think about! They worry about their children’s grades, bullies on the playground, the negative influence of the media and too much time spent on computers and electronic games. Instead of worrying about the things over which they have little control, moms and dads …

Redefining Old Truths

Growing up as a child in New York, I learned that there were four distinct seasons: spring, summer, autumn and winter. While there were variations during the year, kids could pretty much depend on flowers blooming in the spring, taking trips to the beach in the summer, playing in the …

It’s All In Our Perception

I was taking my daily walk when I passed an elementary school playground with children at recess. “You’re lucky!” a young girl shouted to me. “Why do you say that?” I smiled back. “Because you’re free to take a walk and I’m stuck in school!” I thought that her perception …

A Promise to Our Children~

I will never treat you like you are my property or that your role in life is to please me or soothe my fears and worries. I know that I am merely a soul who is experiencing life in a human body and just because you’ve physically come through me …

Lying to Our Children

Now that the holidays are neatly tucked away behind us it may be safe for me to bring up a touchy subject:  the way grown ups lie to children about Santa Claus. Before you have a meltdown at the mere thought of reflecting on the lies we tell children, take …

10 Nuggets of Wisdom

1. Children come through our bodies but we can never control their emotions or their spirit. We can unconsciously disempower & confuse their spirit. 2. When we train children to please others we teach them to lose themselves. 3. Your way is not the only way. You can release your …

Understanding Laziness

I recently had a conversation with a mom who was discussing how anxious she was feeling about her struggling second grader. She sighed and said, “The problem with my child is that he is lazy.” I passionately responded with,  “NO, NO, NO!”  That is not necessarily the truth!!! Let’s look …